A self-confident person trust in her/his strength to achieve. People with high self-confident and self-acceptance share similar habits and common pattern of thinking that help them achieve their goals. If you doubt yourself, why should someone else put faith on you? Confidence is a result of knowledge and belief. Self-confidence takes many forms, from the arrogance to the calm self-assurance.
In my life, I can see how self-confidence attracts others. Now at age almost 32, I can see my shift to own happiness and fulfilled mindset. When you feel confident with yourself, the entire world seems to belong to you. I can see how other successful and confident people surround me, and I have such a pleasure spending time with them. Suddenly I started to see how opportunities come my way, and I learned to embrace my desires and began living the life I wanted. Why? Well, because the keys to your highest performances are always held by confidence. Moreover, you start to notice the self-acceptance in others, and you admire their contagious harmony.
Learning to be confident is very important in life, but what is it that truly self-confident people do that sets them apart from everyone else? Well, after my observation I have found 12 habits of confident people so that you can work on improving them and incorporate them into your daily practices.
Below you will find 12 ways you can develop the mindset of most confident people:
Stop comparing yourself with others. There are soo many people who are comparing themselves with someone else, it takes the form of negative self-talk about how you are not good enough. By doing so, it weakens self-confidence. The only person you need to compare yourself with is the version of yourself that you want to become. That’s it.
Define your life-purpose. It is incredibly difficult to be self-confident in what you are doing if you are not sure why you are doing it. What is the real purpose in your life? Once you recognize your “whys” trust me, you will become very confident about yourself. Everything comes from a place of faith.
Performance to your strengths not weaknesses. Don’t get me wrong I certainly agree with fixing our weaknesses, but I am sure you will find that your self-confidence will improve when you play up your strengths. So many people spend a huge amount of time making up for their limitations than to prise to their strengths. One example, if you’re not satisfied with your math skills (like I am not), don’t run for a position in finance. Stick with your strengths and master them!
Concentrate your mind on solutions. Certainly, with the age, you will find more challenges in your life, but directing your mind on a problem is a self-destructive practice. Instead of doing this, focus on finding good solutions as a great leader. The more obstacles you overcome, the more faith you will develop, and the easier it will be to get the answers.
Take action. Please ignore the inner voice in your head to speaking to you that you can’t do something, and take action! Try it! Test it, and do it anyway! Anxiety can paralyze you. The more you allow doubts hold you back, the greater the negative inner voice will grow. It goes in the other direction also – the more actions taken, the empowering inner voice will grow.
Stop saying yes unless you truly want to. Many people find it more difficult to say no then yes, confident people know that saying ‘no’ is fine, and they have the self-esteem to make their ‘no’ clear. When it comes to saying no, people with a high level of confidence avoid expressions such as “I am not sure I can” or “it is not certain.” They say ‘no’ because they know that saying ‘no’ to a new commitment values their current commitments and gives them a higher chance to achieve them.
Start to think like the successful person you’re becoming. Do you have big goals you long to achieve? Do you feel like you are behind schedule? The fact is that people who consistently make winning choices can hold collosal success. Remember please, everything comes from winning thoughts, so power up your thinking! Don’t give up, be consistent, reject imaginary limits, failures or better lessons are normal, successful people fail more because they try as long as it takes – our ego feats growth. Live boldly, and do what you love. Please go to the nest point!
Fake it until you make it! OK, if you struggle with the syndrome or the false self-belief that you are not good enough, just fake it and pretend to be self-confident. Remain to embrace the belief that you are already successful. At first, you might not be satisfied with it, but eventually, your images will follow your emotions, and you will become a more self-confident person.
Concentrate on the positive. Pessimist people struggle a lot, negative inner voice is an evil cycle and a drain on your self-power. Fully concentrate on your positive qualities instead of your weaknesses. Focus more on your successes rather than on your mistakes. Channel your thoughts on what is working instead of what is not going well.
Enjoy in your appearance. When we look good, we feel good. When we feel great with ourselves, we appear confident. Wear the apparels you love and want to wear, don’t be ashamed if someone doesn’t like your style, you don’t have to follow the crowd. If they want to stay in the crowd, let them stay there. Be different, it is great to be different.
Embrace the power of body language. When you are feeling down on yourself, change your body posture (you can always attend yoga classes, it helps a lot!) – pull your shoulders back, stand with your feet a bit wider, put your hands like a super-human, hold your head high, and SMILE! Body language speaks much more powerful than words. Observe yourself, do you experience how the new posture changes your mood and raises your self-confidence?
Be ready. Learn, practice, be patient, and do everything that it takes to prepare you for the right opportunity that is coming your way. Confident people see an opportunity, and they take it. Successes are part of the preparation. If you are ready, you are confident to take that chance!
Building your self-confidence is a journey, not a final destination. Remember, there is no place for the magic that will boost your confidence. If you focus on making regular and small actions, you can change yourself from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset! Keep building it!
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